Two of the last three weekends I've spent as a gringo. Pale skin, light hair, clumsy espanol. Trying so hard to be inconspicuous in my quiet German whiteness. But failing miserably.
Latinos are experts in making sure everyone is included and taking part in the festivities. To sit on the sidelines observing is rather inconceivable. Who would enjoy that, when you could be the life of the party instead? No, Los Latinos make sure you enjoy yourself, even if it involves intoxicating you to the point where you have no choice but to have fun.
Now imagine quiet little me, trying to avoid the spotlight, much preferring to observe in peace in this environment. It's all a little overwhelming at times.
"Laura! You married now? You have a boyfriend? No? Why not? Come dance, who do you want, we'll set you up." In these situations I've discovered it's best to change the subject. "Quieres vino? I'll get you some!" for this reason I've mastered some key Spanish words and phrases.
Offering or asking for vino or cerveza is typically an effective way to change the subject. Or food for that matter. Hospitality is definitely a strong point in the Latino culture. "Ven, eat! Hay mucha comida." is a phrase I'm quite familiar with now.
Sometimes my gringa constitution just can't handle the amount of food and drink offered to me, though. So "un poco" or "un poquito" (a little) come in handy, along with "despues" (later).
And if all else fails, a smile and "no no no" usually gets the point across.
I have been hugged, kissed, and asked to dance by more strangers (male and female alike) in the last few weeks than any other year in my life.
And you know what? I love it.
Sure, it's a little overwhelming at times, but it's also so much fun! The Latinos I've been around, mostly Guatemalans and Peruvians, have been so open and welcoming; so happy and laid back. I've had ceviche and chicha, (raw fish and a drink made from purple corn). I've danced to salsa music and tried to understand conversations in espanol, with varying degrees of success. But mostly I've realized what a relief it is to just sit back and enjoy yourself, without worrying about making a fool of yourself or doing something wrong.
So overall I'm so happy to have these crazy Latinas in my life, teaching me how to shake my booty and down a pisco sour.
Although it still really helps to do those things in the opposite order!
